Finding and understanding purpose in life is a key to enjoying life. Without a clear purpose and the understanding of the direction we want to go, we are sometimes frustrated and confused.
Here is a breakdown of the 4 strategies you can use to find your purpose of life and your sense of significance.
1. Define your true priorities and eliminate false objectives.
To live your extraordinary life, you’ll need to live YOUR life, not somebody else’s.
Often, we live our lives how others want us to live. We build our daily habits and schedules around what our families, friends, and society want for us. We are a product of our surroundings.
It takes guts to live your life according to your true priorities, especially when your priorities differ from the people around you. When you have the courage to build your life around what matters most to you, you live authentically and your days become filled with a stronger sense of purpose and fulfillment.
In today’s high-pressure, crazy-busy world, it is very easy to stray away from your true priorities and build a life around false objectives. False objectives are the goals you’re working toward that don’t align with what matters most to you and the person you most want to be.
For some people, climbing the corporate ladder is a false objective because they desire more than anything to take some time away from their career to stay home with their young kids. For others, having a large home mortgage is a false objective, because they would love the freedom to travel the world.
In order to feel fulfilled, it’s important to closely evaluate your life and be 100% honest with yourself on the following questions:
- What matters most to you?
- What false objectives are you working toward?
It’s important to identify and eliminate the false objectives in your life. When you eliminate the false objectives, you begin focusing your life on what matters most to you; and, it gives you the space to create your authentic, extraordinary life.
2. Develop a crystal-clear vision the life you desire.
As you define your true priorities, you can start developing a vision for the life you desire.
How will you build your life around your priorities?
Write down everything you can think of about the life you desire. Then work on believing it’s possible to achieve it. This can be really difficult, but it’s crucial.
If traveling is one of your biggest priorities, and you deeply desire to create a freedom-based career with a laptop lifestyle allowing you to work from anywhere in the world, you’ll need to believe it’s possible. If deep down you believe that it’s not possible for you to break free from the 9-5 in the cubicle, you won’t take the steps necessary to break free from the office.
If you say writing is very important to you and your biggest ambition is to become a New York Times bestselling author, but deep down you believe that you’ll never finish writing your book, the actions you take every day are going to align with your disbelief. When you’re not feeling motivated to write, you won’t. When you’re feeling defeated, you’ll quit.
What you believe about yourself–and what you believe is possible for yourself–affects how you show up every day to achieve your biggest goal.
Get clear about the life you desire, and work on believing it’s possible to achieve it.
3. Create a plan to achieve your vision.
Let’s use the bestselling author example again.
If your biggest ambition is to become a New York Times bestselling author, because you want to write about a topic that matters a lot to you and make a difference in the lives of many with your words, you’ll need a plan to achieve that vision.
Hope is not a strategy. You’ll need a plan.
You’ll need to develop a writing habit. You’ll need to research how to get published. You’ll need to learn how to effectively market the book or how to hire somebody to market it for you.
Create a specific plan and give yourself deadlines to achieve it.
4. Deal With Resistance effectively.
Every day, when you are working on building your life around your true priorities and your big vision, you’ll face resistance. Your life will probably look something like this:
This resistance occurs in many forms including:
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
- Fear of standing out from the crowd
- Fear that what you believe is possible maybe isn’t really possible for you
- Feeling tired or unmotivated
You will be bombarded every day with many things that attempt to distract you away from your true priorities.
It’s important to run YOUR race, live YOUR life, focus on what matters to YOU, and build your life around YOUR vision.
You’ll face a lot of resistance, and it’s important to have strategies in place to deal with your resistance effectively, so you’re able to stay on track even during tough times.
Follow those steps and everything changes.
When you’re clear about what you truly desire and what matters most to you, and you develop a plan to achieve your big vision, everything changes.
You feel more focused and you make decisions that align with your true priorities.
You find the purpose of life.
You show up with more passion and enthusiasm.
You build your life around what matters most to you, and life becomes very fulfilling.
Dr. Kerry Petsinger is an Entrepreneur, Mindset & Performance Coach, & Doctor of Physical Therapy(first published by lifehack)